Be open to love, but don't
let yourself be crushed by it.
Watch what people do,
instead of listening to what they say. Talk is cheap, but actions tell what
someone really believes.
Don't waste your love on
someone who doesn't love you. if he can't commit, it's his loss, not yours.
Don't give up who you are
to be loved by someone. If they can't love you the way you are right now, if
you have to change who and what you are to be with someone, that person
isn't worthy of your love or your time.
Don't compromise your
values for anyone. They won't thank you for it and they will probably leave
you anyway.
The best way to truly know
what a person is about is to NOT give them what they want and see how they
handle it.
Love is only
life-threatening with an abuser. If he hits you, kick his trash to the curb
the first time and you won't have to worry about the next time.
You can forgive and even
forget, but that doesn't mean you have to let him back into your life.
Trust is earned. It is
not a gift--the same with friendship.
And speaking of friendship,
pick friends who will tell you the truth about your men--and then believe
them when they do.
You don't have to be a man
to be a strong woman.
Don't "settle" for someone.
Be brave enough to be alone, rather than settling for less than you deserve
in a relationship.
Don't blame yourself for
his problems and short comings. If he can't deal with his issues, why
would you want to?
Pauline Baird Jones is the
award-winning author of seven novels of romantic suspense with strong romantic
heroines. For more information on her novels or to find out her novels visit
her website at: www.paulinebjones.com
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