Courtesy NASA/JPL-Caltech
Courtesy NASA/JPL-Caltech

“Do you want to go on an adventure with me?” my brother asked recently.

I didn’t even hesitate. “No.”

That might surprise anyone who reads my books. My heroines are all brave and bold and unflinching (mostly) in the face of great dangers.

I flinch a LOT. My imagination is big enough to make a trip to the mailbox fraught with unimaginable danger.

I’m a wimp.

I’m a coward.

I’ve done things outside my comfort zone, but it always feels life-threatening. I’ve blogged before about embracing fear. As I get older, it gets harder and harder to embrace fear. Or even happiness. Lol

Change. It’s hard. Even change I made happen.

My brother looked surprised. “You used to go on adventures with me.”

Why yes, I did. They terrified the crap out of me, but I was more afraid of being left behind. Looking back at some of his “adventures,” I should have embraced being left behind. Lol

It’s a miracle both of us survived to adulthood.

You might think this is a blog about facing and overcoming fear.

It’s not.

I think fear serves a purpose. It gives us pause, it causes us to ponder and consider before moving forward. There have been times when it has probably saved my life. (I will never know for sure, because I didn’t go into the scary place to find out. Lol)

But there are times when I wish my fear trigger were less, um, sensitive. I know fear sometimes causes me to miss opportunities that aren’t actually life threatening and would be to my benefit. When I’ve pushed back against fear, I’ve met great people, done interesting things, expanded my world with new opportunities.

One of the biggest, scary things I’ve done somewhat recently was to take control of publishing my books. The first time I pushed “publish” on a book, I was so excited.

The world was less so. Lol

But I’ve pressed forward. Met and connected with other authors (many of whom have visited this blog to talk about their books- search my Why I Wrote archives!), and found people who actually like to read my books.

Because I’m a reader myself, I can’t tell you how delightful it is to have someone read your book and like it.

It also has opened me up to criticism. Not everyone likes what I’ve written, but I’m okay with that. I don’t like everything I read either. I will confess that EVERY TIME I publish a new book, I feel fear.

I like to be liked. I like my books to be liked. But a negative review hasn’t killed me yet. Lol

What do you fear? Or are you too brave for fear?

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Pauline

Out of Time

What Do You Fear?
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9 thoughts on “What Do You Fear?

  • July 2, 2016 at 6:43 am
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    I remember when I self-published my first book–yeah, it was scary. Looking back, I don’t know why.

    I’ve done some bold things in my life — and I’ve hesitated to do things out of fear. I tell myself every now and then, “Don’t be a wienie.”

    • July 5, 2016 at 1:51 pm
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      That’s a good one for the mirror, Cara. “Don’t be a weenie!” LOL Thanks so much for stopping by!

  • June 28, 2016 at 7:03 am
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    I’m a lot like Charlotte (above) finding myself later in life. I, too, fear that I won’t get everything done that I want to–books to finish, places to visit. Good for you, Pauline, for taking control of your books. I remember when I did that. Talk about scared! Pushing that “publish” button scared me half to death. But, hey, it all worked out.

  • June 28, 2016 at 12:58 am
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    England voted to leave EU because they were being dictated to by faceless unelected bureaucrats. They had little say in their own lives. We have the same creeping government problem here except it is government agencies taking over our lives. Most folks cannot afford to fight a government agency. So I fear government. But Brexit gives me hope.

  • June 27, 2016 at 9:58 am
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    I fear not getting everything done my life’s to-do list before I kick off, including helping people and making the world a better place. I feel like I’ve “found myself” later in life than most people do, and I’m trying to calculate just how much I have to accomplish in the next 30 years, just in case those are the total of my functional years left to me! LOL!

    • June 27, 2016 at 6:00 pm
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      You will be surprised how much more time you have! And you will be great doing it.

  • June 27, 2016 at 8:45 am
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    I’m a big scary cat and the worlds worst worry. Haven’t done anything brave lately. I really need to get out more

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