photo of Delaware River Gap
The Delaware River Water Gap is where the Delaware River passes through a short canyon or gap in a Ridge that runs along the New Jersey – Pennsylvania State Line. The view shown here is from an overlook on Allemunchy Mountain in Allemunchy State Park, Allemunchy Township, New Jersey Copyright by WyoJones. All rights reserved. Used with permission.

If you look at the hub’s caption for this photo, you will see what he “saw” when he took this picture: the distant water gap. The first thing I saw was the lone picnic bench. I “saw” myself sitting there, maybe with my lap top, doing some writing. I could “see” myself being inspired by the isolation and the lovely surroundings.

But I would not have noticed the distant water gap without the caption. This has happened before with the hubs and I. He is a geologist, so when he looks at the world, he often sees features. And I see the picnic bench.

Years ago, I saw this postcard that read something like:

wherever I take my eyes, they see things from my point of view.

Perception differences aren’t just guy/gal. They are also shaped by experience. You might recall the story of the mom lecturing her 4 year old about not stepping off the curb. The little tyke looked up at her mom and asked, “What’s a curb?”

As an author, I spend a lot of time mulling point of view and perception. I use it to mess with my characters and create tension and conflict. In my real life, I sometimes forget that two people – even two people who have been married for years and years – can look at the same thing and see totally different things. My goal in my real life is to reduce conflict and tension, not ramp it up.

To ramp it down, somebody — preferably both somebodies –needs to expand their view, to see with “new” eyes, to be certain you both agree on what a curb is. While I don’t always get the hubs geologic excitement (and the pop quizzes are killer), it has been a fun adventure seeing the world through his eyes. And I’m a better (and happier) person when I expand my perceptions to includes others view points. But I still like to mess with my characters.

What about you? Have you any adventures in seeing with new eyes? What did you see first when you looked at the hub’s photo? Inquiring minds love to know. AND all comments are entered into my monthly drawing for an AnaBanana gift basket. Because I’m excited to be participating in NaBloPoMo this month, and because I have so very much to be thankful for, this month’s gift basket will be worth $50. Winner will be announced the first blog post of Dec. 🙂

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Pauline now perceives the water gap and will take that new knowledge into the writing of her new book. While you wait for her to perceive how to totally hose her characters, you can browse her back list here on this blog or on her website. 

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8 thoughts on “Perception Matters When Trying to Communicate

  • November 3, 2013 at 12:23 am

    I’m a bit into photography and the picnic table is pretty much in the right place for the ‘rule of thirds’ – so I reckon for most people, that’s what you’d see as the most important item in the shot. I certainly did. Knowing me, I’d have probably stood on the picnic table to get a shot of that distant gap. Hey ho. Just as well we’re all different.

    • November 3, 2013 at 7:07 am

      The hubs likes to do the unexpected with his shots. And he does see with a geological eye first. LOL

  • November 2, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    I saw the fall colors first! Too funny. Really enjoyed this blog. So true.

  • November 2, 2013 at 4:57 pm

    Stopping over from NaBloPoMo. I actually saw the tree and the picnic table. I wondered about the picnic table, while also assuming that the mountain in the background was a full scene mountain, thus missing the water gap lol. New (or re-newed) perspectives are sometimes the best perspectives to me, because they are different. Since they are different, I am curious, hence liking them 🙂
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    • November 3, 2013 at 7:05 am

      I had to study the photo to see the hub’s gap, I will confess. LOL And I was there when he took the photo. LOL But like you, I like being reminded that I miss things when I forget that other eyes see differently from mine. So nice of you to stop by. I hope you’re enjoying the blogging challenge. 🙂

  • November 2, 2013 at 1:14 pm

    I saw the picnic table first too! Yes, writing space!!!! Excellent scenery.

    My new eyes tale: I remember feeling sorry for people whenever I saw news stories/articles/photos of their houses destroyed by storms, raging rivers and rising water.

    Then water flowed through MY house (1984.) 29 years ago this past week, the tiny bayou near our first house turned into a raging river, water sliding under doors, rising inside our house, ultimately destroying more than not. Heavy rain unnerved me for years!

    Now I see news stories of those in situations like that, and I immediately pray they quickly find themselves surrounded by wonderful, helpful people like we did who will help them rebuild and get back to normal (if one can ever look at heavy rains casually again after that.) And if I can offer assistance, I do.

    • November 2, 2013 at 4:28 pm

      Wow, that is a great story and I’m so glad your comment came through! It is so true that experiences can open our eyes in new ways, both good and bad. Hugs!

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